a reminder to please please please let me know if i’ve been gross or something because forreal

the struggle to unlearn shit is real as fuck and i make mistakes

i’m not perfect and i still do gross shit and i’m working on being a better person and creating safe places for people

i see so many posts that are like “ahhh a friend of mine did something gross and i don’t know how to tell them” like if i’m ever that person please let me know

“The reality is that fat people are often supported in hating their bodies, in starving themselves, in engaging in unsafe exercise, and in seeking out weight loss by any means necessary. A thin person who does these things is considered mentally ill. A fat person who does these things is redeemed by them. This is why our culture has no concept of a fat person who also has an eating disorder. If you’re fat, it’s not an eating disorder — it’s a lifestyle change.”

Lesley Kinzel (via framesjanco)

and its not just Europe btw

there was a violent incident several days ago in Calgary, there have been repeated incidents in California, and I myself can attest to being treated with more hostility and threatening body language

whatever your position on Israel: Jews, stay safe. let people know where you are going, particularly women, and if you are going somewhere alone or in conservative/orthodox dress

there’s been some disturbing overtones to the violence-whenever a jewish woman gets involved, the violence seems to skyrocket. In Calgary, for example, one 22-year-old woman was beaten unconscious by six men, and the cops did nothing, and they were present

stay safe


Being gay does not give you a free pass to start making sexual or romantic advances toward aro/ace people. 

No, it is not homophobic if the person does not want to be with you. Do not dare pull the homophobia card for that. 


Pondering puppy


Aquarium Spa, Singapore

photo via courtney


A pre-season friendly match played by Israel’s Maccabi Haifa against Lille in Austria was ended prematurely when a group of pro-Palestinian protesters invaded the pitch and scuffled with players.

The protesters brandished Palestinian flags and reportedly shouted anti-Israeli and anti-Semitic slogans at the players, and a couple of whom got involved in brief altercations.

So, people in Europe are just attacking Jews now. This is a thing that is happening.

If you’re interested in protesting Israel’s treatment of Palestinians, I understand you. That’s not what’s happening in Austria or Germany or France. These are people who decided to just assault people who are from Israel or who are Jewish.

Disgusting. Terrifying.

then again, i use fandom to detox from rl, either by escapism or the clean joy of vitriolic disappointment, so

© fay